Something I saw today reminded me of the beautiful friendship we use to have not so long ago. I was reminded of the great connection we use to have, the laughter we shared. The lovely stories we use share into the early morning hours. But then that is all gone and all I have are memories of what use to be. We became strangers with time and we forgot how to really talk to each other. And it all began with that awkward silence, where something should have been said but it never was .And I hoped that the awkwardness would go away but it never did.
A wise man said; if you fall off a horse, it’s always wise to get back up immediately. Because if you wait too long, it won’t be as easy to get back up. And that’s what had happened to us. I waited too long to say something because I was too afraid if I said what I thought it would rock the boat. I was afraid if I shared what I was thinking then I might have killed what was. But what I didn’t know was not saying what needed to be said was what killed what was. I didn’t know that if you shelter something too much to keep it from harm, you might in the process suffocate it too.
Not sure we will ever get back to where we use to be. But this lost friendship reminds me of so many other situations I have seen going on around me. Am reminded of the parent who will not speak up and ask for help for his addicted kid. A parent who will not confront his/her children for bad behavior. Because he is afraid making things worse. He is afraid of looking and feeling like a failure. He/she is afraid of ruining the family legacy.
Am reminded of the wife who gets abused and decides not speak up because she does not want to embarrass him. She does not want people feeling sorry for her. She feels like it’s her fault. She wants to protect the dream she has of a united family. Am reminded of a friend who will not speak up when she knows her friend is making a wrong turn. A friend who will not confront when she feels she is being taken for granted, being disrespected, or being taken advantage of.
Sometimes what you are most afraid of doing or saying, is the very thing that will set you free. Something you are not saying maybe the bridge to where you want to be. What is it that you know you need to say? What is that one thing that you keeping pushing away but it keeps coming back? Sometimes in life your situation will keep repeating itself until you learn your lesson. And “There comes a time when silence is betrayal” Martin Luther King. Betrayal to what you know to be right. Betrayal to what you believe in. Betrayal to who you are.
Stop being afraid of what could go wrong and think of what could go right. Because ” You may choose to look the other way but, you can never say again that you did not know” William Wilberforce
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