“Your feelings are valid. You have every right to feel whatever emotion you want. You aren’t being dramatic. You aren’t over exaggerating. You’re feeling and that’s okay.” Anonymous
Watching the scenario unfold for a while, I was tempted to go talk some sense into him. Tell him how laughable and stupid this situation would seem in a few minutes. Tell him how at risk he was of getting sick fast. Tell him if he took some time out, the situation would feel different than it did then.
But then I stopped myself, because I knew in that state, everything else around him was blocked out. Watching him pace around like an enraged bull, it suddenly didn’t feel safe. He wouldn’t hear me, no matter how hard I tried .His emotions had taken over; they were the only ones he was listening to at the time .
He was someone I respect, someone I look up to and someone that I trust. I watched someone I cared about turn into this person I didn’t know existed. I watched him hijacked and toyed around by emotions. Emotions that blinded him to the risk he was causing to his health.
Emotions that made him totally forget who he really was. Emotions that made everyone around him watch in surprise, while some walked away feeling the shame for him. Emotions that like a blanket shielded him from everything without. Emotions that enslaved him and he didn’t even know it.
The intense emotions filled the air and watching his every move from where I stood. I could empathize because I’ve been there. Watching him made me realize, how I may have looked in the past. That has been me on occasion. I have let my emotions overtake me some time.
And like a roller coaster; I have been thrown so high up and brought down so low. Emotions have woken up monsters I didn’t know existed. Emotions have made me a stranger to those who know me. These emotions have made me look back in shame. I have ruined relationships when emotions have taken over.
“All emotions, even those that are suppressed and unexpressed, have physical effects. Unexpressed emotions tend to stay in the body like small ticking time bombs-they are illnesses in incubation” Marilyn Van Derbur. However, our emotions need to be as educated as our intellect. Walking away may seem like a cowardly act but it’s one way to stop your emotions from overriding your intelligence.
Retreating to silence maybe the last thing you want to do. But, it’s the only way you can hear what your feelings have to say before speaking up. We need to know how to respond instead of reacting. We need to know the time and place to express them. We should learn to master our emotions otherwise we become slaves to them.
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